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This is our beloved Maria, who was born in Birmingham on July 06, 1988 and passed away on July 09, 2005 at the age of 17. 

Maria was a beautiful, caring, intelligent girl whose life was cruelly cut short by the diagnosis of Acute Lymphoblastic Leukaemia.   

We will love, miss and remember Maria forever.

The words to the song playing are those of Randy Owen.  He has written this song which highlights the courage and determination of all our youngsters diagnosed with cancer.  All proceeds from the download of this song are going to a childrens cancer charity and our donation has been made.



Teenage and cancer are two words one never hopes to hear in the same sentence. 

On 16 June 2005 my daughter Maria was diagnosed with leukaemia. She began treatment straight away but only three weeks after the initial diagnosis, she got a nasty virus. I lost her the very next day. It was three days after her 17th birthday.

We had very little time to digest the fact that Maria had been diagnosed with this cruel illness. Doctors and nurses were very reassuring, saying she had a 70-80 per cent chance of survival, but it never entered our heads that there was a 20-30 per cent chance the other way too.

Following the initial diagnosis and tears, Maria showed exceptional bravery. The next day she began phoning her friends. I really admired the way she just said “I’m in hospital and I’ve got leukaemia”. I even heard her laughing on the phone. From that point on I knew she was up for the fight. Taking her lead, so were we.

All thoughts about cancer left our minds and the word leukaemia didn’t sound too bad. The days and weeks that followed were spent visiting Maria in hospital and lifting her spirits. Friends, family, everyone came. Her friends from school brought her hats – the one thing that was upsetting her was the thought that she would lose her beautiful blonde hair. She turned to me one evening and started the conversation “Mom. . .” I knew something was coming as I recognised the way she said “Mom”.

She said “I’ve come to terms with losing my hair – I’ve got more important things to think about haven’t I!” I admired her bravery, but underneath I knew that this was the one thing she was not coming to terms with. I was glad she was worried – it meant she wasn’t worrying too much about the leukaemia.

However, despite her bravery and courage, Maria contracted a virus only three weeks after diagnosis, which proved too much for her immune system after such intense chemotherapy.

Losing our precious Maria to leukaemia, which we thought was curable, has been as destructive as the illness itself.

Our hearts are broken and our lives devastated – no parent should hear the words “I’m sorry, your child has cancer”, let alone “I’m sorry, there’s nothing more we can do”. The only way I can describe how we feel now is that someone has ripped out our hearts, scrunched them up, trampled on them, put them back in and said “now go on – get on with it”.

Sadly Maria’s story is not as rare as you may think. Every day in the UK, six teenagers or young adults are diagnosed with cancer. That’s six families who will have been sat down by a consultant and told the devastating news that we were told. Six more will be told that tomorrow and six more the day after and so on.

To be diagnosed with cancer is distressing at any stage of life, but it is particularly hard for a teenager to deal with. They are old enough to fully comprehend what being diagnosed with cancer means, yet are still so young to deal with the emotional strain that comes with having such an illness.

These young people, in the midst of their already difficult journey to adulthood, suddenly find themselves faced with a possible life-threatening illness. Many must put life on hold, just as it is starting to take off.

Since Maria’s untimely death, life is very difficult but I try to focus my grief on doing something positive, so I decided to set up a charity in her memory: The Maria Watt Birmingham Foundation for Childhood & Teenage Leukaemia.

If this could happen to my 17 year-old daughter who ate healthily, led an active life, didn’t smoke, didn’t drink; in essence did all the things we are told to do for a healthy lifestyle, then it can happen to anyone.

The main aim of the charity is to make as many parents and teenagers aware of the signs and symptoms of leukaemia, as some can be easy to dismiss: Headaches, lethargy, pains in the backs of the legs and swelling of the stomach are all common teenage ailments. As parents, we know our children best and we should not just dismiss these signs. We hope that this increased awareness will result in earlier diagnosis, in turn leading to earlier treatment and hopefully a better prognosis for the future.

Our foundation is also supporting the work of Teenage Cancer Trust (TCT), a national charity devoted to improving the lives of teenagers and young adults with cancer.

Teenage Cancer Trust is currently building specialist teenage cancer units at hospitals throughout the UK; in the Midlands there are three in development at Birmingham Children’s Hospital, Birmingham Royal Orthopaedic and The Queen Elizabeth.

Each unit costs in the region of £2 million and will cater for six teenagers at any one time. These units are important, as more often than not, teenagers and young adults will be treated in inappropriate facilities with inadequate support options. Until the age of 16 a teenager is likely to be treated in a paediatric ward alongside toddlers. Diagnosis after turning 16 will likely to result in being treated in an adult ward with elderly patients.

Both of these scenarios are far from ideal as the young person is in an environment with people they will not fully relate to. It is imperative that teenagers are treated in a comfortable environment where they have the opportunity to meet other people their age who understand what they are going through.

The TCT units will not only treat the illness in a cleaner, safer, teenage-friendly environment but will also cater for their psychological needs as well as focusing on the future; whether it be continuing with education or entering the workplace. Perhaps best of all, there is a 15 per cent better chance of survival if treated in a specialist unit. Additionally, the new unit at Birmingham Children’s Hospital will free up much needed bed-space for local children diagnosed with cancer.

This issue is particularly close to my heart as we had first hand experience of how difficult teenage patient care can be. Maria was treated at Heartlands Hospital and although the care she received was absolutely terrific, they simply were not equipped to care for a teenager.
The Maria Watt Foundation unequivocally supports the proposed Midlands units and it is our aim to raise enough funds to pay for one of the rooms within the Birmingham Children’s Hospital unit in memory of our daughter. We need to raise £200,000 for this to happen.

Our charity is also raising funds to start new research into the causes of leukaemia in teenagers and young adults. As the incidence of leukaemia is growing among this age group and as no one has been able to tell me why my Maria got this illness, I am keen to find the cause in the hope of eradicating it in the future.

As you can imagine, running the charity has been time-consuming but luckily I have had the full support of my family, friends and employers and colleagues at Allied Irish Bank (GB). Indeed, a team of senior national Allied Irish Bank (GB) management headed up by managing director Robbie Henneberry have raised nearly £4,000 by completing a gruelling 10k run.

In addition to this, our charity also organises several fundraising events over the year. Last year 27 very unfit 40 something’s decided to enter and train for the Coventry Half Marathon raising £22,000.

Since Maria’s death our family unit has changed beyond recognition. Our relationships have changed. Imagine a stool with four legs. If one leg of the stool is cut off, what happens?

The past few years have gone by in a blur and not a minute has passed when I haven’t thought about her. She would be 20 now and I can’t help but wonder what her life would be like had she survived.

All we can hope is that by raising awareness of teenage cancer, we will prevent other families having to go through what we have.

MARIA'S STAR

Maria's brother David has named a Star after Maria.  The star co-ordinates are - Cassiopeia RA 23h 34m 53s D 52' 54'  If you cant see it you can see her online star by visiting  
          www.mwb-leukaemia.org.uk/page_1174348366562.html  


          

Maria will be missed by everyone who knows her.  She was 16 when she was diagnosed with Acute Lymphoblastic Leukaemia.  3 precious weeks later, she was gone, 3 days after her 17th Birthday.  
                          

Beautiful, witty, intelligent, precious, loving, caring, a little selfish at times, courageous, a fighter, a fantastic daughter, a beautiful sister, a great friend to many.

                         

                             
David's words from MYSPACE - I have made this site in memory of Maria. She was a great daughter, sister and friend to all.

Maria enjoyed shopping, hanging out with her friends, going on holidays and going the football.

Another great passion was clothes. She enjoyed shopping at Miss Sixty and I think she had every pair of jeans they had. Also i noticed the shop in the bullring has shut down!!

She loved football, particularly her beloved Birmingham City. Home and Away she enjoyed the excitement of each game and loved the travelling no matter how far it was. She had a season ticket and was as thrilled as everyone locally when Blues finally made it into the Premiership.

One of her great passions was holidays – always looking for somewhere new to go and experience. She’d been to Cornwall, Devon, Ireland, Spain, Majorca, France, Disneyland Paris, Tenerife, Gran Canaria, Fuerteventura, Lanzarote, Greece, Turkey, Tunisia, Cyprus, Dominican Republic, Egypt.

Maria tried all the clubs – Swimming (getting all her badges including survival), Karate, Canoeing, Irish Dancing, Trampolining, Aikido, Keyboard lessons, Gymnastics to name but a few.

Music became part of Maria’s life. She loved listening to bands such as Oasis, Guns n Roses, Queen and Nirvana. She followed her Dad in his music taste.

Maria had a number of great passions. She loved music and had been learning to play the piano from an early age achieving Grade 5 and working towards Grade 6. Her piano teacher had great time for her and on occasions, came to football matches with us. Indeed, Richard & Sarah were so comfortable with her that they left their baby son with her – for a few quid, of course.

Maria, a beautiful, intelligent girl, whose life was cruelly cut short by an illness that she and her family knew little about.

Maria was intelligent, kind and caring. She had a fantastic future planned for herself and was working towards her A Level grades in Maths, English, Biology and Law. Her intention was to go to university and become a lawyer.

She has been missed deeply by so many of her family and friends. We love You xx                     

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Family Tree
Tributes and Condolences
I love you   / Mom
I love you babes with all my broken heart.  I sat with you today remembering the last birthday you had with us. You were so brave that day - I met Krysta and Mr T - they never forget you sweetheart. Going to pick up Nan shortly and then going to...  Continue >>
Christmas Eve   / Mom
Well Maria, another Christmas Eve and I feel more lonely now than I did when I first lost you. I cannot believe that this is the 4th Christmas without you.  I love and miss you so much.  My heart is broken in two.  I think about you e...  Continue >>
Maria  / Mom
I miss you so much...I would give anything just to spend one precious hour with you babes. As I sit here, I cannot help but wonder how things would have turned out for you. What you would be doing now. Its hard even to imagine what you would look lik...  Continue >>
Race for Life   / Mom
Well Maria...I did the Race for Life last night - it absolutely poured down here yesterday as it has done for the last couple of days. July and its so wet! Anyway, as the race started so the rain stopped just as you had promised so thank you for sort...  Continue >>
3rd Anniversary   / Mom
Maria, I cant believe it is 3 years since you left. In some ways it seems like yesterday but in other ways it feels like a lifetime ago since I last saw you.  I miss you more and more as each sorrow filled day passes by. Not a second of the day ...  Continue >>
Happy Birthday  / Mom (Mom)    Read >>
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I MISS YOU  / Diane (Mom)    Read >>
Thank You  / Diane Watt (Mom)    Read >>
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Her legacy
Maria's Well  
With some of the money that was raised following Maria's loss, we have purchased a Water Well in Nepal.  This Well will provide clean water to a number of villagers and will also provide health education to villagers - this will hopefully save hundreds of lives in the future.

You can see a picture of Maria's Well in a photo album.  Just click on the album and then click on the photo - you can see Maria's name on a plaque on the site of the well.

The well is registered in the name of Archbishop Grimshaw School.  It had been suggested that the school do something to help a Third World Country in Maria's name.  Hopefully this is the start of a project for them.

The funding of the well also includes a complete hygiene, training, maintenance and health package which is set up for the close inhabitants of the well in an attempt to improve their quality of health and life expectancy.
Maria's Charity  
Maria was diagnosed with Leukaemia on 16th June 2005.  This cruel illness took her life away from her on 9th July 2005.

It is for this reason that we decided to set up Maria's charity as a lasting memorial to her and her wonderful life.  The Charity aims to:-

Raise Awareness of Leukaemia in Teenagers and Young Adults - this devastating illness is increasing and people need to know that it is claiming so many young lives.

Help Teenagers - the Charity has provided an online Teenage Cancer Forum for use by Teenagers and Young Adults to share their experiences, worries and concerns - to offer advice to each other.  The charity is also supporting the development of a new Teenage Cancer Unit at Birmingham Childrens Hospital.  This unit will provide specialist treatment in a cleaner, safer, teenager friendly environment.

Provide Research - the Charity will be funding research into the causes of Leukaemia in Teenagers and Young Adults - there is a reason why so many young people are getting this illness and we need to find out why.

For more information about the charity please visit our charity website www.mwb-leukaemia.org.uk 
 
 
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